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Monday Morning Motivation – Control

(Sharing Resources to Help You Grow Personally, Professionally & Financially)

Sometimes it helps to get a little dose of encouragement — along with a good cup of coffee! — to start the day.

Hopefully the message below will help you get off to a good start for the week.  Please feel free to forward the newsletter on to others that you think would benefit from the content.


This month I’m going to step away from drawing my influence from my friend Zig Ziglar, and go with a few topics that I have become exposed to over the past two years via my Iron Sharpens Iron mastermind group and the men’s group I attend at the Compass Church here in Naperville.  The topics for each week for this month will be trials, control, abundance and gratitude.  One thing that I have come to realize over the past few years is that moving from success to significance is all about impacting the lives of others.  Hopefully you’ll take away an idea or two that will help you to improve your life and the lives of others.

Last week I took on the issue of trials.  The message here was simple.  Embrace your trials with a joyful heart and you will live a much more peaceful life.  Today I’m going to speak about control.

Confession time – I am a MAJOR control freak!!!  I like things to go my way, on my time, and get my result.  Others that are aware of this have asked me:

  • How’s that working out for you?

And you already know the answer to that is not very well!

Control is an illusion.  We all believe we have the ability to control the things in our lives. The reality is the only thing we can control is ourselves.  Everything else is ultimately outside of our control.

Sure we can have an influence on others.  But actually controlling them is darn near impossible.  And, when we try and control others, we end up frustrated and often bitter.

Which brings us back to the issue of trials – one of the biggest trials many of us face is letting go of things.  As several people (including my Mom) have told me:

  • Let go and let God

When we stop trying to control things and start embracing our situation and working on ourselves, good things happen.  We develop as individuals, people see we are happier, and things go much more smoothly – often resulting in things turning out the way we had hoped.

It is one of those things that does not make sense, the less hard you try the easier things become.  The more hard you try the more hard things become.

That brings us to this week’s question:

  • Are you trying to control too many things in your life?

Thanks for sharing a bit of your time with me this Monday morning and I wish you all the best for the week.


(Note:  Each week I publish “Monday Morning Motivation” in the hopes that one person will find a bit of inspiration and that inspiration will have a positive impact on their life.  My motivation comes from experiences, reading, sermons, and discussions.)

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Curt Stowers

Curt Stowers

Curtis Stowers helps individuals and families across the United States grow their financial assets, particularly in the Naperville, IL region. He is a Certified Financial Planner, holds a Ph.D. in Industrial Engineering from the University of Illinois, and is the founder of F5 Financial.